February 14, 2010

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Posted in Breast Cancer, Cancer, Family, Health, Holidays, Women tagged , , , at 8:40 am by Liliana

A gift of love

A gift of love

My husband Jeff is not a very romantic man. He is a computer programmer, a person who sees the world through the prism of reason and logic. In the early years of our marriage, it took me some time to get used to his indifference to romantic celebrations like Valentine’s Day, but it didn’t bother me too much. I cared more about how he behaved every day.

During the winter of 2005, I was undergoing treatment for breast cancer. Chemo therapy had left me with no hair, emaciated, depressed and listless. I was not a pretty sight. Every day I would wait for Jeff to come home from work at 5 pm. He was my compass to wellness. I though that if I survived one more day, I was closer to the end of treatment, to health, to the coming of spring.

I didn’t even know that Valentine’s Day had arrived that February until Jeff came home a little later than usual. His arms were full of gifts for everyone in the household. He bought boxes of  chocolates and candy for the kids, cheese cake for my sister, a necklace for my stepmother. For me, he bought a fancy card, and a huge bouquet of pink spray roses.

I remember that I burred my face in the flowers and held the card to my heart. I cried and I cried. The gift of love came at the moment when I needed it most.